Why I say August instead of September

Before Phil and I met each other again in Tim Hortens in 1994, I had been through some rough relationships consisting of all kinds of abuse, not going to talk about them here. Phil and I had grown up together since we were 12 yrs old. As we got older we went our separate ways and both had been married and divorced. When we ran into each other again that special day, it was as if the clock had been turned back. I had just got out of an abusive situation and was nervous about even talking to a man, let alone a long lost friend. But God had other plans. We sat and had coffee and talked for quite awhile about what we had been through since we lost touch with each other. Although I didn't tell him the details I did tell him that I was just getting over an abusive relationship. Phil just said that he understood and that if I ever wanted to talk just to call him anytime. Well he called me the next day and asked if we could meet again, of course I said yes. lol. At this time I hadn't let him know where I lived, but when we met he asked, and I just said in a house. He didn't push for the address, but just carried on with general chit chat. I was becoming more and more relaxed around him. After a few more meetings in Hortens I figured that it was safe enough to give him my address. To my surprise, the very next day he was knocking on my door. Without going into details, I will just say that after a very short time we decided to move in together. Since Phil owned a scrap business and was working from his house mainly, it was decided that I would move in with him. Soon afterwards we decided to move out of the city and into the country where there would be more opportunity for Phil to do him work. We moved into a small house in the country and was then approached by a neighbour to attend church. Well neither of us had any good memories about church so we tried to make excuse after axcuse, but none of the worked. After we attended for about six months the Pastor asked us if we had ever given our lives to God, and been baptized. Now we were in a perdictament. Although we knew about what was being asked, we were not married, and we both knew that you had to be married, not living commonlaw. lol. So we just said that we couldn't do it cuz we were not married. That wasn't going to stop him though. He said then we will marry you and baptize you after. lol. So on September 1, 1996 we went to the church for a small service to get married. Although we were never what you would call "rich" we had a good life together. Yes there were problems, that I am not going to go into here, with my daughter, but we were happy together. Never in my imagination did I even think that my life would end on the same day it began. When we went to bed on August 31, 2007, Phil wasn't breathing. By the time the ambulance arrived and we got to the hospital for the official death notice, it was after midnight. Therefore on my loves death certificate it says the date of death is September 1, 2007, our 11 anniversary. What a day, one to remember of joy and of sorrow. So if anyone asks when Phil went to be with the Lord, I say on August 31, cuz I know in my heart that he had already made his journey before midnight.

Next I will try to write about life after cleaning up the business, moving, and just trying to get by day by day.